Have you ever felt like your relationship suffered due to a betrayal or lie that you told? Maybe it was a small fib or it could have been something much bigger that you felt like you’d never recover from.

Whether it was one lie, a slew of them or an affair, the concept of dishonesty is present in all relationships, so know you are not alone!

I know how difficult it can be for a relationship to bounce back after a lie has been discovered. 

Have you ever noticed your heart rate increase or your body temperature change whenever you go through a distressing situation?

I know I certainly have!

It can be something as simple as anger or anxiety that causes your internal body chemistry to change. Or maybe it’s feelings of panic or sadness that seem to overcome you.

Whatever it happens to be, with all of the ups and downs of the past year, it’s no wonder a lot of people feel as if they are struggling to find ways to navigate their moments of distress.

Now that we've started a new year, let's make it a priority to find better ways to resolve conflict with your partner!

In this month's Therapy Moment, Jazmine Price, ALMFT gives us 4 tips on how to fight more fair and to better resolve issues with your partner.

Have you ever heard the phrase, “new year, new me”? 

I sure have!

I don’t know about you but I’ve been guilty of making some New Year's resolutions simply because it felt like the thing to do! 

In our culture, it seems there is some unwritten rule that since there is a brand new year it must be time to hit the restart button on all our toxic or unhealthy behaviors and start over. 

There are many ways people create these New Years resolutions.

Did you know that leading with "soft emotions" can help you better connect with your partner during times of conflict?

In this month's Therapy Moment, Irene Schreiner, LMFT teaches us the difference between soft and hard emotions and explains why soft emotions allow others to move closer to you during times of frustration.

Even though we talk a lot about marriage and increasing that connection between you and your partner, not all of our clients are married or in a serious relationship. Many of our clients, in fact, come to us because they are either wanting to step into the dating world or are currently trying to find someone to date.

Along their dating journey, they’ve discovered that they have some issue, something blocking them from being successful and finding happiness in relationships.  Those blocks might be lack of experience, self doubts, low self-esteem or a tendency to pick the wrong person.

I think we can all benefit from a mental check in right now, so let me ask you something! 

How are you doing? How are you taking care of yourself? How do you need to be supported right now? 

I don’t know about you, but I have had to ask myself those questions more frequently and the truth is it's okay not to be okay. 

The reality of what we are living through has caused most of us to take a pause and reevaluate what’s important to us and for us in life.

Couples often begin therapy because they feel like their sexual intimacy is in a rut. They complain that they have grown apart, that they are not feeling loved, or that they do not feel important to their partner. They worry that they will never return to how they “once were” early on in their relationship and question how to rebuild their sexual intimacy after what feels like a dry spell.

Arguments and disagreements happen! But they don't all need to be painful or keep you stuck. There are effective way to resolve arguments with your partner? Check out this video from Solid Foundations therapist Robyn Ashbaugh, ALMFT where she talks about one helpful tip to make conflicts with your significant other more productive and help you reach resolution quickly.