Do you and your partner struggle with resolving disagreements you have with one another?

Maybe the same argument keeps reoccurring and you both can’t seem to see eye to eye with one another!

In this month’s Therapy Moment, Maggie Zofkie, LPC, NCC sheds light on how to best resolve conflict with your partner!

If you search for tips on mental toughness, you will most assuredly find information regarding winning, managing grief, military experiences, business doctrines, and parenting tips.

These are all concepts commonly associated with mental toughness and resilience, but is there an actual definition of this term, and if so, why does it become so contorted and misconstrued at times, specifically by men?

The reality is that mental toughness should probably be renamed mental equilibrium or balance, and reference to toughness only serves to misguide most people, specifically many of the male clients that I have worked with in my career.

Being mentally tough does not require us to “take the pain” and suppress our feelings.

Quite the contrary, actual mental toughness does require the highest level of emotional awareness and deepest levels of vulnerability.

Do you go out of your way to help your partner feel thought of, loved and supported?

If not; you may not be putting in the time and effort to nurture your relationship.

In this month’s Therapy Moment, Robyn Ashbaugh, LMFT shares with us the importance of intentionality in your relationship!

Imagine a Thanksgiving dinner spread before you, laden with all your favorite dishes. You fill your plate with mashed potatoes, turkey, broccoli casserole, red jello, corn, carrots, stuffing, and, of course, a slightly burnt crescent roll, generously doused in gravy. As you begin to eat, you realize that you didn’t pause to ask, “Is this enough food?” 

Suddenly, you’re uncomfortably full, longing to collapse on the couch. While this scenario may be fitting for Thanksgiving, it often mirrors our lives when we overload ourselves with tasks like work, school, kids, friends, family, etc all expecting you to still show up how they need you. This often leaves us feeling mentally overstuffed and overwhelmed.

Have you ever let your relationship go by the wayside due to all the hats you wear? Maybe you’ve been working extra hard at your job, putting all of your time into your kids or simply haven’t been prioritizing your partner. In this month’s Therapy Moment, Sarah Davidson, MA, MFT shares with us the importance of creating checkpoints with your partner and how it can benefit your relationship!

Are you struggling to understand and cope with the loss of someone or something that hasn’t passed on?

Do you feel hopeless, confused, sad, unable to sleep, or are you experiencing an inability to move forward as a result of being separated from who you used to know?

If so; you may be experiencing ambiguous loss.

Ambiguous loss is a profound sense of sadness and loss that is not associated with the death of a loved one. It consists of a lack of closure due to either physical or psychological absence. 

Do you experience stress, anger, grief, or pain during challenging times?

If so; you aren’t alone! It’s called being human!

When this happens the #1 most important thing to help you get through tough times is resilience!

Resilience is the ability to adapt, cope with, and bounce back from stress and adversity and hopefully grow through the experience. It is also the ability to keep functioning physically and psychologically through whatever the experience is. 

Have you ever wondered what you can do to get the most out of therapy in order to receive lasting results?

If so; you aren't alone!

In this month's Therapy Moment, Victoria Mahoney ALMFT shares 3 tips on how to get the most out of doing therapy in order to improve yourself and your relationship with others!

When I work with clients one of the primary things that I hear at some point is a statement that goes something like this.  “I know I should try and do these things, but it’s hard, and what happens if I don’t succeed?  Then I’ll fail.”  

Embedded in that statement is a very simple premise, the idea that failure is bad.  

As the clients continue to talk it becomes clear that not only is failure bad, but it’s often one of the biggest things holding people back from genuine change.  

But what is failure?