The First 30 Days After Discovering an Affair: What to Do and What to Avoid
Discovering that your partner has had an affair can turn your world upside down.
In an instant, the person you trusted, the relationship you thought you understood, and even your own memories of your marriage can feel uncertain. Infidelity is not simply a disagreement or a difficult season in a relationship. For many people, it is deeply traumatizing. The shock, anger, grief, fear, confusion, and obsessive need to understand what happened can feel overwhelming.
The first 30 days after discovering an affair are often particularly difficult.
Breaking Generational Patterns: Parenting Differently Than You Were Parented
As a marriage and family therapist, I’ve seen an array of parenting styles, family rituals, rules, and patterns of behavior. Every family is unique, which is one of the reasons I love this work, the honor of joining with families to create lasting, meaningful change and heal relationships.
The CRAP Strategy: How to De-Escalate Conflict in Relationships | Solid Foundations Therapy
When conflict keeps escalating and you cannot seem to find your way back to each other, sometimes you need a bridge strategy before you can get back to genuine connection.
Negativity Bias: Why Your Brain Fixates on the Bad and How to Work With It
Have you ever had one awkward interaction completely erase an otherwise good day?
Maybe your boss says, "Can we chat tomorrow?" and suddenly you're mentally updating your résumé. Or you send a text, don't get a response for two hours, and somehow your brain has decided the friendship is over.
If you've ever wondered why your brain seems to cling to the bad stuff while brushing right past the good, let me introduce you to one of my favorite concepts to teach clients: negativity bias.
You Can Only Control What You Can Control: Letting Go of Relationship Anxiety
If you've ever replayed conversations in your head, wondered what your partner is thinking, or tried to figure out how to make your relationship feel more secure, you're not alone.
Relationship anxiety is something I see often in therapy. It can show up in many ways.